The following table is provided as a public service to those households in which both spousal units have intense employment commitments.
This will be enlightening for some families where these tasks would be expected to be shared, no, probably just evenly distributed, over some large span of time…say a year or more.
Each of you can put percentages for each spouse over some time span. Compare your perceptions.
Not just things you do, but planning events, scheduling events, researching options, discussing those options, inviting participation. Include things that keep your household running smoothly ….don’t include last minute panics over something that should have been taken care of earlier, but slipped through the cracks. Just include activities that keep those last minute panic attacks from being necessary. Some categories you might use: